During a divorce, you want the whole ordeal to end as drama-free as possible. While this is not always possible, you do need to try to remain amicable if you have children. If you are in the middle of a divorce and cannot stop badmouthing your ex-partner, then you may want to start thinking of ways to stop. When you badmouth the other parent, it can negatively affect a child.
US News explains why you should never talk poorly of the other parent and how to handle children when you are in the middle of a divorce.
Treat children as children
Your children are in the middle of a struggle to adapt. The changes that occur when parents divorce are difficult to adapt to. When your children hear you rant and rave about your ex-partner, it can negatively affect them. Children often feel helpless when they cannot understand a situation.
Do not treat your kids as though they are the confidants. Some parents falsely believe that they need to tell their kids every detail of the split because they need to make sense of it. This is not the case. Instead, you wind up burdening your children with adult problems.
Remember children are half of your spouse
When you bad talk your ex-partner, you do not mean to insult your children. After all, you are only venting about one specific person. What you need to remember is that your children are half of that other parent. When you start to call your ex different names, your children can internalize that. They may feel out of control or as if they are going to be the same as your former partner.